Last night at The Junior League, a matchmaker came to our committee meeting. She is usually based in Texas and San Francisco and is expanding to New York City.
She said that when she speaks to men in Manhattan, their number one complaint is that the women are too aggressive. They often transfer the skills used in their career to romance yielding crummy results.
She suggested to the room of quite lovely young women, more than half of which are single, that everyone take it down a notch. No matter what they did for a living -- law, finance, real estate, whatever -- that for the first three dates they should focus on being happy and feminine, and all good things would come from there. After dealing with all the men that she does, she found that very few cared about income or education level, that the bottom line was that they just wanted someone who was happy.
Even if one isn't looking for a mate, I think it's good advice. Goodness knows that when I'm under stress I turn into the third Millard brother with an arsenal of inappropriate jokes. That's never a pretty sight, or good for business.
